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How Escorts Find Community in a Stigmatized Profession

The first time Amber met another escort in person, she cried. They were at a diner in Midtown at two in the morning, both coming off late appointments, and for the first time in eight months of doing this work, Amber could speak freely. She didn't have to edit her stories or watch her words or maintain the elaborate fiction of her fake consulting job. She could just be honest. "I didn't realize how lonely I was until I wasn't lonely anymore," she told me when we met weeks later at that same diner. The isolation of escort work is profound in ways that people outside it can't fully comprehend. You're living a double life, which means you can't be fully honest with anyone in your civilian world. Your family doesn't know. Your old friends don't know. Your roommate doesn't know. You're carrying this enormous secret that touches every part of your life, and you're carrying it alone. "It's like being a spy," Amber said. ...

My Worst Client Stories (And What They Taught Me About Red Flags)

Posted by Julia | 7 min read I need to tell you about the client who made me rethink everything I thought I knew about screening people. His name was Brian, and on paper he was perfect. Professional job, great references from other providers, polite during our phone conversation. He even sent flowers to the hotel before our appointment, which seemed thoughtful and classy. But the moment I walked into that hotel room, something felt wrong. He was too eager, too familiar, talking to me like we'd known each other for years instead of having just met. He kept mentioning specific details about my life that I'd never shared with him. Turns out he'd been researching me obsessively online. He knew where I went to school, had found my old social media accounts, even figured out where my family lived. What I thought was charm was actually him demonstrating how much he'd been stalking me. I ended that appointment early, but it taught me that good references don't al...

The Unsung Guardians: How Security Personnel Shape Safety in Escort Services

Hey everyone! So I've been diving deep into workplace safety across different industries lately, and there's one role that rarely gets discussed but is absolutely crucial - security personnel in escort agencies .  I know, I know, it's not exactly dinner table conversation, but hear me out. After interviewing dozens of workers, security staff, and agency operators, I've realized these folks are literally the difference between life and death for many service providers. Yet their role is misunderstood, undervalued, and desperately needs our attention if we're serious about worker safety and rights. Let me paint you a picture of what security actually looks like in this industry. These aren't your typical mall cops - they're often former law enforcement, military veterans, or trained professionals who understand both personal protection and crisis de-escalation. Their job involves screening clients, monitoring communications, maintaining safe locations, and bei...

Fighting for Justice: How Court Cases Changed Everything for Sex Workers

Posted by Anna | March 15, 2025 Hey everyone, I've been diving deep into legal research lately (yes, I know how to have fun on a Friday night!), and I wanted to share something that's been both infuriating and inspiring me. As someone who's spent years advocating for sex worker rights, I think it's crucial we understand how our legal system has shaped—and often failed—the people in this industry. Today I'm breaking down the court cases that have actually changed how Asian escort services are regulated. Trust me, this stuff matters way more than you might think, and some of these decisions will absolutely blow your mind. Why I Care About This (And Why You Should Too) Look, I'm not going to pretend this is just academic curiosity for me. I've seen firsthand how bad laws destroy lives. I've watched friends get arrested for advertising companionship services that were completely legal. I've seen people denied basic worker protections because societ...

The Money Talk (It's Not What You Think)

  Posted by Julia | 8 min read Okay, let's talk about money. Because I know that's what everyone's really curious about, even if they're too polite to ask directly. But here's the thing – the financial reality of this work is nothing like what you see in movies or hear in stories. It's way more complicated, way less glamorous, and honestly, way more stressful than people imagine. The Math That'll Blow Your Mind So everyone thinks we just pocket whatever clients pay us, right? Like if someone pays $300 for two hours, I just made $300. Ha. I wish. Let me break down what that $300 actually looks like by the time it hits my bank account: First, if I'm working through an agency (which I did for my first year), they take 40-50% right off the top. So that $300 becomes $150-180 immediately. Then there's taxes. Yeah, we pay taxes. Shocking, I know. Even if you're getting paid in cash, you're supposed to report it as income. I learned this the...

Let's Talk About STDs (Because Someone Has To)

  Posted by Julia | 7 min read Alright, let's dive into the topic everyone gets weird about but absolutely needs to hear. Sexual health. STDs. Testing. All that fun stuff that makes people squirm in their seats. I'm gonna be brutally honest with you because sugar-coating this stuff helps nobody. And trust me, I've learned some things the hard way that I wish someone had told me earlier. My Wake-Up Call at 22 About a year ago, I went for my regular testing and got a call I wasn't expecting. "Julia, you need to come in to discuss your results." My heart literally stopped. Like, I'm pretty sure I forgot how to breathe for a solid thirty seconds. Turns out it was chlamydia. Totally treatable, caught early, no big deal medically speaking. But emotionally? I was a mess. I spent the entire drive home crying and beating myself up, even though my doctor kept telling me it happens to sexually active people all the time. The thing that re...

How to Flirt incall Asian escort at Restaurant

Have ever met a girl at a restaurant and she intrigued you so much you want to know her more. It could be a friend of your friend, or even a total stranger who seemed lonely. You might want to know her better but you just don’t know what to do to get her attention. You need to learn how to flirt with Asian Escort girls in NYC so that you won’t be trapped in an awkward situation because of your misbehavior.   Sometimes, trying to flirt slightly could end up creating a creepy image of yourself. If that goes on further, you won’t be able to even get close to her, so here are some tips on how to flirt with an NYC asian escort incall at a restaurant. The first and most important rule is to never get too close to her. Nobody would feel comfortable with an unknown person entering their personal space. Just start a light conversation for the beginning, and maintain a safe distance from her. Staying on the opposite side is a wise choice for your first move.   ...